Couples Counselling – Being Together

Love is the most compelling force in the universe, it drives us to fix relationship problems.

 

What makes connection in marriage so difficult? How can a couple who have been together for a long time, still feel as though they hardly know each other? Consider whether any of these statements reflect your experience with your partner:

 

  • I sometimes get ignored when I need attention the most.
  • I get angry and upset when I don’t get the attention I need from my partner.
  • I often find myself becoming irritable with my partner.
  • I often feel irritated that my partner isn’t on my side.
  • I have trouble getting my partner to listen or respond to me.

 

According to research, couples who are contemptuous of each other are more likely to suffer from illnesses.  Research  shows that it is not the presence or absence of arguments that determines whether a relationship will breakdown or not, but the presence of   criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

 

Contrary to popular opinion, marital therapy based on active listening (“talk therapy”) and conflict resolution alone is surprisingly  ineffective.  Using emotion-focussed couples therapy CPT employs counselling using interventions that repair, build and sustain lasting relationships.

 

Counsellors work at a depth with couples to identify areas  in which couples get stuck in destructive cycles in relationships, confront destructive patterns of relating, or “unlearn” what has kept couples lonely and isolated from one another.

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